We enjoy the butterflies, and we enjoy the mystery, but beneath it all relationships are a series of decisions — decisions influenced by circumstances. I used to fear circumstances, because circumstances caused my relationships to fail and under better circumstances, those relationships might have turned out differently. I now embrace circumstances. I see them as a tool for exposing our beliefs, making them a blessing in disguise. If you and your mate have conflicting beliefs, it is only a matter of time before those beliefs create conflict in your relationship.