These emotions are often triggered when an expectation is not being met.

Perhaps you do have expectations and do not realize it? If it is important that your mate avoid illegal drugs, avoid smoking, be attractive, be chivalrous, be considerate, be financially stable, be honest, be intelligent, be monogamous, be punctual, do chores, drink responsibly, have a sense of humor, have ambition, have communication skills, have manners, have social status, keep their promises, or respect others, I would describe you as having expectations.