Compatibility requires that we meet each other’s basic needs. Your ability to do that is determined by the set of (financial, emotional, personal, physical, social, and spiritual) attributes you possess. These attributes represent what you bring to the table. Until now, it may not have occurred to you to verify your ability to meet your mate’s basic needs. From this point on however, you will see your desire not to verify for what it is: a lack of love for your mate and ultimately yourself. If you feel fear, perhaps you believe you will fail to live up to your mate’s expectations? If that is the case, maintaining such a relationship is selfish. Selfish behavior is likely to lead to your mate feeling resentment towards you. Resentment creates an incentive to act in ways that are counterproductive to the long-term health of a relationship. Causing your mate to feel resentment towards you is ultimately you punishing yourself. If you love yourself you will not want to punish yourself.