When you have no idea about how you bring value to a relationship, you limit your ability to change and reinvent yourself compassionately.

“The only thing constant in life is change.” We are constantly changing and reinventing ourselves. In the context of relationships, Some changes bring us closer together and some tear us apart. The list of attributes your mate finds attractive about you is effectively a list of things your mate believes you bring to the table. Obtaining that list can help you clarify misunderstandings and avoid jeopardizing that attraction accidentally. If left to chance, some changes may lead to feelings of resentment. Your mate feeling resentment towards you is likely to produce undesirable outcomes — outcomes that create barriers to fulfillment. A person who loves him- or herself would seek to avoid such barriers.