Unfortunately this is where our paths diverge.

Your answers hint at an inconsistency in your beliefs. It is hard to imagine how such an inconsistency could support the goal of building a long-term mutually fulfilling relationship, thus Navigating Love would only be useful if your goal was to let go of these inconsistent beliefs. It is possible that I am simply misunderstanding your perspective. If so, I would love to understand your perspective better, because in my interviews with hundreds of people, I have yet to meet a single couple demonstrate this perspective in practice. I wish you well in your search for love.