In my experience, this perspective is not common.

If you love yourself it is in your best interest to make this perspective clear. Any fear you have of expressing this perspective is likely a fear of your mate having an incompatible perspective. Perhaps the possibility of not being accepted by your mate concerns you? Left undiscussed, this perspective could become the source of a preventable argument and resentment in the future. Resentment is a form of punishment. If you love yourself, you will not want to punish yourself. If you love your mate, you will not want to punish him or her — which by definition will lead to them punishing you.